Meditate To Manage Anger

Welcome to the 10-part meditation blog series that focuses on the various ways that meditation can assist you and your overall wellbeing. 

Each week I will publish a blog specifically dedicated to how a meditation practice can assist with lowering anxiety levels, seeing your path, help your thoughts go by more easily, etc. 

Before diving into this week’s topic, I want to take some time to provide some definitions and answer some questions to ensure that we are all on the same page. 

Meditation: thinking deeply or focusing one's mind for a period of time, in silence or with the aid of chanting, for spiritual purposes or as a method of relaxation

Mindfulness: the practice of maintaining a nonjudgmental state of heightened or complete awareness of one's thoughts, emotions, or experiences on a moment-to-moment basis

Why should I care about meditation?

Because it has a direct connection to health benefits such as lower blood pressure, improved blood circulation, lower heart rate, less perspiration, slower respiratory rate, less anxiety, lower blood cortisol levels, more feelings of well-being, less stress and deeper relaxation. 

Who should meditate? 

EVERYONE! You don’t have to have some enlightened, spiritual abilities to practice meditation. You don’t have to be a yogi and go around saying namaste to everyone.  You don’t have to know someone within the meditation community to be invited into it. Literally anyone from toddlers to elders can do and benefit from meditation. 

Where should I start?

Take your time in trying out all different types of meditation and mindfulness activities to figure out what suites you best (resources provided below). After more and more time is spent meditating you will become more and more comfortable with the idea of being still and focusing your attention to your breath. 

Quick Practice: Let’s Give It A Go!

1.    Find a quiet space 

2.    Sit or lie down and get comfortable

3.    Close your eyes

4.    Breathe natural. Make no effort to control your breathing 

5.    Focus your attention on your breath. Observe your bodies movements with your breath. Focus your attention on your breath, remembering not to control it and allowing it to flow in and out naturally. When your mind wanders, that’s okay, just thank your thoughts and return your focus back to your breath. 

a.    Start with doing this for a few minutes, and then add one more time as your practice progresses. 

Resources:

Books: 

The Mindful Twenty-Something

Wherever You Go There You Are

How to WalkHow to SitHow to EatReconciliation

Coming to Our Senses

Real Happiness

Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness

Mindfulness Self-Compassion

Online:

KORU Mindfulness

UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center

Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley

Wildmind

Meditation Oasis

YouTube:

Jon Kabat-Zinn

Pema Chodran

Sharon SalzBurg

Tara Brach 

Apps:

Koru Mindfulness

Insight Timer-Meditation Timer

Mindfulness

Calm

Headspace


Anger [ang-ger]

noun

a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.

Chiefly British Dialect . pain or smart, as of a sore.

Obsolete . grief; trouble.

Verb

to arouse anger or wrath in.

Chiefly British Dialect . to cause to smart; inflame.


Anger is not just anger. Behind our anger lies rejection, grief, loneliness, a longing to reconnect, etc. When we ignore or repress our anger, we are always ignoring these other emotions as well.

Meditation is the midpoint between expressing and repressing anger. It allows us a space to stay present with it as it arises and recognize the many faces of anger. By doing this, we are able to become aware of our feelings to learn more about them and not be swept away by them. 

 

Try It Out Now!

Releasing Anger – Listen here

Guided Mindfulness Meditation on Dealing with Anger – Listen here

 

Shannon Gonter, Professional Counselor in Louisville, KY

Shannon Gonter, Professional Counselor in Louisville, KY

Written by: Shannon Gonter, LPCC

I specialize in working with men and young adults. I am passionate about my career and want to work with you to create positive change. I also strive to create a counseling environment where men and young adults can relate, feel heard, and find new solutions to their negative patterns. Some issues that I most commonly work with are stress, relationship issues, difficulty saying “no” to others, difficulties recognizing emotions and emotionally connecting to others, anger, and intimacy issues, among others.


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